Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Ok, shall do this post differently! ;) lemme try it in Chinese. Hehehe. Simple Chinese, I believe Singaporeans will be able to understand? :/ And this is what I've gathered from my gfs :x maybe you can tell me if it's true or false. :)

"每个女人的心里，都住着一个十几岁的小女孩,

不论这个女孩有多成熟的性格，不论她的年纪多大,

这个住在女人心里的小女孩，和一般小女生一样,

有着浪漫天真的情怀，总是爱做着自己心里的美梦，并衷心地希望梦想成真."

Anyway, to sum it up, I think;

P/s. A girl becomes a woman when she learns to love herself more than she loves a man. - this is definitely not deemed as, what you called: selfish OR self centered.

How will you possibly know how to love, if you don't even love yourself? Right? ;)